Loss of a Parent
Loss is not a simple thing to overcome at any age and regardless of whether the loss was expected or unexpected there is a mourning period and a grieving process that takes place. The time frame for the mourning and grief is infinite and varies from individual to individual and loss to loss. One of the most devastating losses a person can suffer is the loss of a parent. Typically a loss that most will experience at one point in their life or another, the loss of your caregiver and biggest supporter can leave you feeling alone and abandoned and you may find it difficult to move forward. With time, support and the help of family and friends most are eventually able to move forward with their lives and find some peace with the loss of their parents.
Most individuals will experience the loss of at least one parent at some point in their lives and this loss can be exemplified by the closeness of the relationship between the parent and the child and the age at which you lose your parent. Adults that lost a parent when they themselves are an adult may not have as difficult of a time with coping and with the grieving process as a child or young adult that unexpectedly loses their parent. Consequently, a very young child may also not have as many challenges at an early age with the loss of a parent but there can be other long term effects of this loss if the loss is not handled appropriately with a young child. Helping to keep the memory of their parent alive in a way that helps them feel a connection is important and can help them cope later in life as celebrations and events happen that make them realize more fully the loss of their loved one.
For those that lose a parent, holding onto a small part of the legacy of that parent is important and this can be done in a variety of ways. It can be as simple as holding onto a personal item of your parent's such as a bible, a wedding band or even a special necklace or watch that they wore on a daily basis. It can be something more significant like moving into the home that they lived in or passing the home down to a grandchild. Whatever the legacy may be, the passing down of a part of them helps to draw families together and in many ways keep them close to your heart and as an integral part of your life.
The loss of a parent has a different impact on the child depending on many factors such as the age of the parent, the age of the child and the factors leading up to their death. Creating a memory of your parent by holding close a personal memory of them can be a wonderful way to move forward and a special part of your parent that can be passed down to future generations.